MADE-UP WORD OF THE DAY:
Intervert: Someone who is shy and remote around those who are not like themselves and wildly social around those one finds relatable.
I just thought of this word (and there may be one that already exists for this definition that I just don't know, so feel free to share it if you do) when I received one of the biggest compliments I've gotten in a while -- maybe ever -- when I discovered that someone described me (to someone else) as a "conversationalist." I've never thought of myself that way, obvious as it now seems to me, especially because I can be very garrulous in some situations and around some people and inordinately shy in and around others.
One thing I cannot do is smalltalk. My brain is not capable of having a conversation about bullshit. (If you don't know me well and just ask me what's up, I will probably just smile and shrug while I try to think of a passable response and suddenly fear I appear boring.) Meanwhile, I'm too pretentiously highbrow (and unapologetically so) to discuss gossip or celebrities or anything I think is basic, common, or small. (Tomorrow will be a very prolific exception to this rule, FYI 😆) Yet, it's hard to expect witty repartee and meaningful discourse or even just a good laugh from everyone you know. (Honestly, today it's just hard period. Even in NYC. Being clever just doesn't seem relevant anymore.)
I think part of being an "intervert" is feeling socially insecure and superior at the same time. Any other interverts out there that I know?
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